sparklingsodacans:

“Here’s something important about INFJs: we don’t take personal relationships lightly. We don’t form bonds easily with other people. This isn’t because we’re naturally paranoid or suspicious or untrusting - it’s because we don’t want to give our love to anyone who isn’t worth it. We’re careful shoppers, too. It might take us weeks or months or years, but if we decide that someone is worth our time, we cling on for as long as they’ll let us. INFJs generally don’t form a lot of close relationships over a lifetime, and it’s not because we’re snobbish or conceited (even though we are highly selective) - on the contrary, we’re relatively humble creatures - but because we value our love and loyalty more than other types. Love is a precious thing, but no more so than to the INFJ. For us, love requires an enormous output of energy because we will fall all over ourselves to make our beloved happy. Be they friend or romantic partner, once attached we will quite literally give them the shirt off our back if they desire it. You cannot ask for a more devoted, more loyal friend or partner than the INFJ. What’s more we are happy to be this way. We’re happy to put so much energy into those we love because we find it rewarding; seeing them happy and safe provides us with the greatest sense of fulfillment and warmth we will ever experience in our lives. And if our loved ones are threatened or in trouble? Their enemies are our enemies, and believe me, you do not want to be on the bad side of an INFJ. (The good news is that it takes a lot to fall from an INFJ’s good graces, as we’re very forgiving unless the betrayal is very deep.) Of course there’s a massive downside to this. Nobody likes to be let down or rejected, but the INFJ will take it harder than anyone else. To reject their love, or treat it as a triviality or even a lie (and to an INFJ each of these are equally painful) is to cut them to their core. You cannot hurt and INFJ more deeply. We value honesty and integrity and will naturally take deep offense if it’s suggested that our love - our precious gift - is meaningless or phony or trivial. We do not need to be coddled; in fact, we will resent it if you do. You may have to be gentle with us (sensitive souls that we are), but we do want the truth. And we need to know that what we’ve chosen to give you is recognized for the gift it is. Our love and loyalty are precious because we hold it in such high regard; if you don’t consider it the treasure it is, I suggest you gently extract yourself from your INFJ’s life. It’s okay, they’ll get over it, as long as you do not waste their time or lead them on. If you have an INFJ in your life who is close to you (telltale signs are they willingly talk to you more than once a week and are open about personal matters), don’t take them for granted. Trust me, they’re not just being nice; INFJs don’t do prolonged niceness, and they don’t fake affection or friendships. They will not compliment you on something or tell you they like you unless they 100% believe it to be true. Remember that, and don’t brush it off. INFJs are rare, and INFJs as friends are even rarer. Remember that.”

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a twinge of cosmic angst: On INFJs & relationships (platonic or otherwise)

 This is SO true!!! 

Wait, this is unusual? There are people who don’t know this? *clouds part, angels sing*